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Marriage stops wet dream?

Getting married may be a way to stop wet dreams. The question was asked by many readers. Here I posted my best answer for anybody who assume Marriage will stop wet dreams. This posting may help them to get a clarity in Wet dreams and its link with Marriage.

Marriage stops wet dream?
Of course getting married is a way to stop wet dreams. Many men will not have wet dreams after marriage.

Do marriage when you have to do. Do not rush to marriage because of the fear of wet dreams. There is no guarantee that marriage will stop wet dream. :) If you are too much energetic and healthy even marriage can not stop it.

Please read the mail fully.

The reader responded to me after reading my other post about wet dreams.

From Reader,

Hi. As your some years ahead of me as far as wet dreams is concerned i
just wanted to ask you some questions. As you already may have understood,
im to suffering from wet dreams. It start when i was around 18 and today
im 25 and still having them. Im not married, i havnt had sex for years,
and i do no mastrubate, last time i did was probably for 7 years ago. I
have til now done alot of research on it without finding a propa cure. On
average i get every 2nd or 3rd day. There was this 1 period when i did
have only 1 for around 14 days.

I am so annoyed by it that i even sometimes thinks
about sucide. Do u think marrying realy would work? Do u
have any suggestions on what i could do? im muslim and i try to get out of
all this shit, but it just doesnt leave me u know. Thanks

Here is my reply

Me too was annoyed by wet dreams. Wet dreams started at 13 year old for me. It stopped when I started mastrubate around 15 years. I stopped masterbution when I was 18 years. old.
From 13th to 15 around 2 years I had wet dreams at least weekly once.
From 15 to 18 around 3 years I did not have wet dreams but I did masterbution.

After 18 till I get married at 28, almost 10 years, I had wet dreams.

Some time weekly once or alternate days.

I was very much worried like you in these days. But I never thought suicide.
I feared mistakenly as it is going to affect my married life.

When I was around 24 or 25 years old, I stopped fearing for wet dreams, Even it comes I did not worry and continue sleeping.

When I get married, I did not face any problem. My erection was so good and timing too. I had baby a year after my marriage.

So both erection and sperm was perfect. Wet dreams did not do any harm.
So my suggestion here is just ignore the wet dreams, Let it come, never mind it.

Yoga and Body Builder's case

I know a body builder who participated in 'Mister' competition. He won the title of his college when he was studying. I met him when he was at his 40+. He had two sons. I discussed with him about wet dreams. He told me till he get married he used to have wet dreams every alternate day. But it did not affect his married life. He also told me he had wet dreams even after his marriage rarely.

I asked him is there a need to stop wet dreams. He said no need to stop it, it is just a natural activity. He also told me He had less or no wet dreams when he changed to Yoga from body building exercise and stop eating meat.

Yoga and avoiding meat may reduce the wet dreams.

As you said you are muslim, you might be a good meat eater(chicken, fish, goat). I like the mutton biriyani served in muslims marriage. I went to muslims marriage with my muslim friend to eat mutton biriyani. :)

By reading your mail I find you are panic about wet dreams. You are not going to stop your fears for having wet dreams.

If you still want to stop having wet dreams, learn yoga and avoid meat eating and read Quran. Diverting your mind from sexual thoughts to divinity will also reduce wet dreams.

Reader's Reply

Hi

First of all, Thank you sooo much for using so much time writing this mail. I appritiate it alot. Ill let u know my case, i started mastrubating when i was around 14 or something and stopped totally at age of 19. I should have never started it at the first place but u know how teenagers day are. But i use to do that very rarely for last 2-3 years b4 i stopped it. Like once a month or prolly not even that.But after 19 i stopped it totally. Thats when wet dreams started, it were present year or 2 year b4 i stopped but not so often as it got after i stopped, which is pretty obivious why. In Islam we are not allowed to mastrubate, but there is nothing i can do with past, so i promissed myself not to do that again. I have kept my promise til date almost. I have always thought that by not doing it, it will eventually get rid of wet dreams. But its been around 6 years now and still no result. I find wet dreams so useless, cz i dont feel like watching any porn movie or mastrubating or any such thing but yet i have wet dreams. I find them just useless. I do hope that after marriage it will atleast reduce the intensity if not stop it totally. I have done so much research on it and found out that Saltpeter might help, they prolly use it in military but i dont have any confirmation on its efficiency. Wheter it works or not. Only thing is that everytime it occurs (wet dream) i dont feel like going out, meeting anyone, friend or family so basically my activity for that day totally stops. I feel like cursed that particular day it occurs. By the way r u muslim?

My Reply

I am not a Muslim, but I am a Submitter. I am progressing in the path of 'Surrender to the God'. http://www.submission.org/

I read Quran as a Submitter. I have a Quran copy in my home edited by Rashad Khalifa(http://www.rashadkhalifa.org)

Can you mention which verse or sura of Quran, which ban the Masturbation or wet dreams?
I noticed Quran banned the Homosexual / Lesbian relationship, Adultery, and Prostitution. As per my reading, I did not notice the mentioning of wet dreams or masturbation.

If I am wrong please guide me and correct me by referring the Quran like which sura or verse speaks about masturbation and wet dreams.

I will correct and update myself.

I am still curious why did you feel as 'cursed' to have wet dreams. It is a natural body process. It happens to every healthy man.

Readers Reply,

To be quite ownest with u, i dont know myself which sura refers to topics like wet dreams, i didnt even know they were mentioned in quran.

Yeah i do feel like cursed every time it occurs, cz i feel it as a punishment from god for what we have done in past. But at the same time i did google on it and found out that wet dreams are not a sin at all, because of it occuring in a state where we do not have controll over our body. So im not sure wheter its true or not. And it does not happen to every natural human being, its occurence depends on how active u urself have been in ur earlier days, teenagers. If u dont mastrubate at the first place which is a sin atleast according to islam, then wet dreams wont occur. Thats how i look at it. Anyways, thanks for replying.

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Well, there are countless hypothesis prevailing about wet dreams in the world.
Wet dreams is related to Men, other than it has nothing to with our tagging like religion or caste or country or education, profession, etc.

Marriage will stop wet dreams because married men periodically release their sperm. But never get married only for the sake of stopping wet dreams.