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What to do when your husband is not interested in Sex?

Here is practical tips from a husband to wives.

If your husband is not showing interest in sex due to job stress, do not force him. Let him settle down. Do not ask him or show your disappointment directly. Do not get angry with him. This will make him down further.

The more you demand for sex, the less he will perform. The less you demand for sex, he will have more performance. Let him hug you by his natural appetite for sex, rather trying to satisfy you or finish off a duty. Let him arise naturally.

Instead of demanding sex directly, you can stimulate him indirectly.

Wear the dress he likes it more. If you do not know what type of dress he likes, try to know it. You must have noticed your husband's reaction to the dress you wear at the time of marriage at least. Remember it and wear the dress which he likes.

There are dresses which you may like to wear, but wear what your husband likes you to wear.

Speak about the topic which is interested to him. He may be interested in discussing about religion, favorite actor/actress, the sports he likes, the sports person he likes, the relative he likes, gossips, sex, any thing which he is interested. Remember, do not open the topic on what is interesting to you, but open the topic which is interesting to your husband.

Let him speak about what is interesting to him. This will release his mind from office tension and stress. His mind might be cloaked with office thoughts. Which means office matters grabbed his mind like a stained blood in white cloth. The easiest way to release your husband's mind from office matters is make him speak about what is interesting to him.

You should not ask him directly to speak. Without his awareness let him slowly slip into the topic. You will see a sudden enthusiasm in his face and voice. Once his mood changed he will look at the dress you wear. It should be what he likes you to wear.

Massage is a good stress buster. You do not need to be a good massage expert or spa specialist. Just pressing is enough. Massage will relax the mind and body, eventually touch of a woman(wife) will stimulate sex mood to husband.

Then, you should show mild exhibitionism to your husband. Let his eyes roll over your body. Let him come close to you.

The above approach of dress and discussing interesting topic, massage are for occasional job stress down. Which means the job stress shoots rarely, not often.

If your husband is suffering from job stress for a long time, the above approaches will not work. They only way to bring him near to you is change to less stressful job. A Job without stress. You may have to face monetary loose. But your family life will be back in track.

Even after changing to stress free jobs, remember he needs some time to come back to normal. Be patient for such gestation period.

There are Yoga, Brahnayama or other life style booster will help to enhance the mind. Indirectly send your husband to such courses. The best stress buster is Sudharshana Kriya by Art of Living. This will bring back your husband's appetite in all the aspects of life including sex.

Never never never force your husband for sex. Never allow the 'fear of committing adultery by wife' to seed in your husband's mind because of his inability perform in sex. Which will destroy your family like anything. Be affectionate to him, make him feel that you understand his situation. Let his mind be in peace regarding your chastity and loyalty towards him.

Your behavior or attitude during your husband's 'down time' or failures to give you orgasm, is very important to bring him up later on. Make him feel comfortable.

Not all the time your husband can not give you orgasm. There are situations or timings where he seems to be more energetic. Identify in which time, morning, evening, day, night, and etc. your husband seems to be energetic, having good erection and able to give orgasm to you. Adapt to such time. After sound sleep is the best time for energetic sex. Preferably day or night. Sleep energies the mind and relaxes the body. Make sure he sleeps for at least six to eight hours a day.

There are women who are desperate for sex, but their husbands working away from home for huge salary. Those women are not ready to live in moderate income at the cost of keeping their husband at home. The same is applicable if the husband is doing stressful job for high salary.

In those cases, you have to convince yourself and your husband to live in moderate income and live together.

For every problem there is a solution in our life style, because wrong life style might be a root cause of problem.

In spite of all the above efforts if your husband still not interested in sex, take him to a psychologist. Never think of using viagra. There are natural viagra available in our life style.

As a wife you should not follow what are said all the time. Which may affect your ego too. You may feel your feminine is offended if you obey or beg to your husband for sex. Leave all those feminine revolutionary spirit for a while in bed or for bed.

Apply what is said above only when your husband seems to have 'down time' due to work stress or any other worries but at the same time you like to have sex.

What is said is to help your husband to get interested in sex or interested in you. Not to dump down your feminine spirit or self esteem. Never bring your ego between you and bed.