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How to keep the infatuation alive between husband and wife.

Have a small 'family break' and let you separated from your spouse for 10 to 20 days. You may go to your relatives house, parents' house or have a sort of vacation from routine family life. During those days do not see your spouse. If you are a husband, do not see your wife. If you are a wife, do not see your husband. Family break is needed to both husband and wife.

After 20 days or family break when you see your husband, you see him new and he sees you new. This 'new' feeling keeps the 'infatuation' alive.

Meanwhile if any negative feelings exist between you and your husband, will be evaporated during this family break.

Please do not confuse family break with divorce. Family break is not a wreckage. Like career break its a family break. How a 'mini retirement' or 'career break' rejuvenates a person to come back energetically, in the same way family break will rejuvenate the couples to energetically engage in family life again.

'Family break' can avoid divorce. Because it is a periodical 'mini divorce', so no need to have a permanent divorce.

Family Breaks Exists in Inida

In Indian middle class society or woman married to husband from distance location have 'family break' maximum thrice in a year. This is done normally. This break is due to academic holidays of their children. Children have holidays after quarterly, half yearly, and annual exams. In those holidays wife goes to her mother's place with children. In this period wife and husband are separated temporarily. So their relationship stress, frictions, negativeness will be forgotten during this period.

The family cycle starts freshly after family break.

Assume that every day 5kg of stress loaded for being a wife and husband. After 60 days they have 300kg of stress respectively. During the 'family break' stress is not accumulated. Moreover both are free and having freedom from each other. So family stress reduced to 0 kg. So when they re-unit again, they start loading the stress from scratch.

Family break is a sort of stress cleaner(Vacum Cleaner).

The infatuation disappeared by relationship stress, expectation failure, and commitment. Many do not aware of the danger of commitment in relationship.

How a weekends, vacations makes you fresh to your career. In the same way husband and wife need a family break to keep their family life interesting and fresh.

Whenever me and my wife have a family break as mentioned above, we enjoy the little bit freedom from our commitment to be a husband and wife. When we meet again after 'family break', we feel again like lovers. We have vibrant and energetic sex. Our infatuation will be high. After a week, we slowly slipped into shouting and fighting. The burden of being husband and wife committed to bring up kids start piling stress on us.

So have a voluntary family break up to keep your infatuation alive to your spouse.