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Avoid Emotional Hijack in work place

I am working in a medium size software company. I joined as senior software engineer. Later I was promoted to Team Leader by management. But the office in chargers were using my old designation whenever addressing me. I do not know why they are not accepting my new designation. May be, because of their ego. Their designation is not up to the level of Team Leader. I joined later than them. This may also create psychological tension to them. The seniors by 'date of joining' in not yet promoted.

Earlier, I took it easy. I did not mind it. Moreover, I did not feel that was important. But my ego started to rise. When my ego stirs for something, I try to skip the issue. I do not like to act by my ego.

After few months, I realized that clarity in my designation is important for getting personal loan, while moving to other jobs. Moreover, I am interviewing the candidate as addressing my self as Team Leader. When they join, again I would be introduced as Senior Software Engineer. All this made me to cement my designation.

Whether it is due to their ego or any other reason, in chargers are denying my new designation. I decided to demand it, but I postpone it, because I do not like to act by my ego.

But, keep bottle necking is the easy way to get emotional hijack. It is better to ventilate before getting emotional in balance.

Today I find I am able to balance. There was another issue too. In charge of my branch deducted my leave salary (LOP) excessively. This created a sudden angriness in me. This time a designation issue becomes tiny. So to skip from salary issue which was boiling, I jumped to old issue.

I asked the in charge of my branch why he is not addressing me as Team Leader. He replied that He was not informed about my designation change. If he is informed by management officially, he would change the way addressing me. Then I asked the management to inform him.

I asked my right without ego. That is the point positive here. If I asked with ego, either I will give up the job or some shouting in the office will erupt.

Office is not the place for emotions. When your emotions are dominating then skip the issue. When emotions are evaporated then attend the issue. It is the intelligence, reasoning and logic should work in office not emotions and feeling. If you let things go into head, office becomes your world.

Do not bottle neck anything. Just ventilate office issues without emotions and ego. Learn to observe whether you are acting by logic or ego. Learn to act without ego in the office. No love and no hate. Just be plain. No emotion, no ego. Office is just a part of the world, strike when you have to strike, retreat when you have to retreat. But no 'bottle necking' or 'emotional hijack'.